Friday, 10 March 2017

Inter-generational Relationships

I enjoy reading "Humans of New York" posts. It's an interesting concept - for those who aren't familiar with it, the author takes a photo of someone and publishes it online along with a quote from that person. Sometimes its about that moment in time, who they are pictured with, or something they are doing, other times its a life story, how they are feeling or an experience they had. It's always interesting and underlines both the unique nature and the common thread of humanity. Lately, the posts have been from people in Brazil.

I saw a post a couple of weeks back that has stayed with me - and one I wanted to share with our readers as it particularly relates to seniors and inter-generational relationships........
Above it is a photo of a young mother and her daughter and this is the quote:

“For Heloisa, every elderly person feels like a grandparent. And she loves her grandparents. So I asked her if she wanted to have her sixth birthday party at a home for the elderly. She loved the idea. So I contacted a local home and planned everything with the coordinator. We sent invitations to the family members of all the residents. I’m a photographer, so I went a few days early and took nice portraits of all the residents. On the day of the party, I printed out the photographs and brought them as gifts for their family members. We did games and activities. There was so much joy. Everyone had such big smiles. The residents were crying. Their families were crying. I was crying. I think Heloisa will remember the experience forever. Afterward, her school friends came home with us and we had an old-fashioned pajama party.” (São Paulo, Brazil) from: http://www.humansofnewyork.com/post/157584321356/for-heloisa-every-elderly-person-feels-like-a

Firstly, what an amazing mother and child! Secondly, what a brilliant idea! It is no secret that children brighten the lives of adults and that children in a senior's home bring smiles and conversation to even the most stoic of person. On occasion I hear about inter-generational programs or young children visiting a senior's residence but something like this goes beyond that and is such a wonderful gift to give to both that child and those seniors. 

The post, brought a smile to my face - I hope it did the same for you.

Friday, 24 February 2017

Pitfalls to Avoid When Considering a Retirement Home - Guest Blog by Lianas Services

Every now and then we come across and article that we think our followers might be interested in.
This week we would like to share an article by Lianas Services. It has been reprinted with permission.

Whether you are considering a move into a retirement home or if you are part of the “Sandwich Generation” that is concerned about the health and well being of your parents, the thought process of potentially making the big move is very often emotional, overwhelming and confusing.
Here are some pitfalls to avoid when considering a move:
Waiting Too Long
It is only human nature to want to stay at home as long as possible.  However, you will be in a much better position to move into a retirement home when you are in control of the situation.  Be proactive instead of reactive.  Be aware of warning signs such as risks of slips and falls, mobility challenges, cognitive issues, safety and security, nutrition, loneliness and caregiver stress.  They tend to become more prevalent as one ages which increases the risk of creating a reactive scenario as opposed to the desired proactive option.  A frequent comment after a move-in is “I should have done this a long time ago”.
Rushing Into a Move
At the other end of the spectrum, you should try not to rush things if you have the luxury of time.  This can be an emotional, challenging time for families.  Try to plant seeds, do your research, take some tours and keep the lines of communication open with parents and family members.  Nobody likes surprises, and seniors, specifically, do not like to be rushed and would prefer to do things on their terms.
Geographic Convenience for Adult Children
Location is one of the most important features when deciding on a retirement home.  However, avoid the trap of choosing a residence solely based on geography.  The question needs to be “What is best for mom?” and not “What is best for me?”.  Important features such as proper care levels; staff-to-resident’s ratios; 24/7 nursing care; amenities; culinary options; environment; culture; safety and security all play an important role in the decision making process.
Finding the Ideal Retirement Home on Your Own
The search process is extremely time consuming.  In many cases, it can easily exceed 100 hours.  It can be confusing, stressful, emotional and overwhelming.  Talk to friends and other family members that have been through the process for guidance and support.  Do research on line.  For some, the easiest thing to do is to call a transition specialist.
In general, the thought of moving into a retirement home can be daunting.  However, with proper planning, guidance and support, the end result can be fulfilling and rewarding.  Many new residents will initially need some time to adjust but it is quite common to see significant benefits including an enhanced social life, improved nutrition levels, higher levels of care and a secure and safe environment.
Lianas provides families with knowledge, resources and services to assist seniors in transition. To find out more about Lianas Services visit lianasservices.com or call 1-877-450-3365.

Thursday, 9 February 2017

Have you had an Essential Conversation™??

Have you 'had the talk' with your aging parents? If you are elderly, have you told your children your wishes if you are unable to make decisions in the future? Have you planned financially for your elder years? Do you have a Will? Do you have Powers of Attorney? If you are a business owner, do you have a plan for what you would like to do with your business when you retire or are unable to work any longer? Have you discussed they kind of care you want if you can't look after yourself in the future?

I attended an interesting meeting today that I thought would be something our followers might want to learn about especially if any of the above questions strike a chord.  Have you heard of The Essential Conversation Project®?

Born out of both professional and personal experiences of two social works with a tremendous passion for helping families with elder loved ones, this organization trains professionals to have the important and "essential conversations" with families to help them with decision making and planning issues around aging. At the same time the company builds partnerships with many different professionals to enable a network of helpers who can assist with any and all specialized issues for their clients and can connect their clients who need help, to an Essential Conversations Facilitator.

Over the many years I have worked with seniors, it is clear that there are certain topics that are much harder for some to broach with their families - topics around aging, care needs, legal and financial issues and death and dying are taboo in many families. And, often no one will even try to raise a concern until there is crisis. Often this limits options and, decision making may be pressured or, not in the best interest of the person involved. If conversations are had in advance of something bad happening it is so much easier for families to deal with the difficult decisions because they know what their loved one wants.

The concept of the The Essential Conversation Project® is simple at its core (in a nutshell, creating a community of helpers to support families dealing with aging issues) but also brilliant and much needed with our ever growing aging population. Sometimes having a neutral professional involved to help with the important conversations and connect you to helpful professionals who understand your situation and needs can make a world of difference.  Check out their website at www.essentialconversationsproject.com.

Friday, 20 January 2017

The Power of Music


When you watch a movie, do you ever listen closely to the music and connect how you feel about what is happening on the screen to what you hear? Have you ever watched a scary movie with no sound? I would bet that if you did, you would realize that it was the music that made you jump far more than the words. The connection between music and emotion is a well-known one but more and more people are using music in their work with seniors with disabilities. There has been work with Alzheimer patients and music and a well-publicized "iPod Project" (musicandmemory.org). 

Music unlocks memories, helps with behavioural issues, improves mood and a host of other things. But a story on CBC news today raised another use and benefit of music for seniors. It seems that playing musical instruments can decrease the effects of some diseases. In Windsor, ON a music therapist has been working with Parkinson's patients and has found that playing an instrument decreases their tremors when they are playing. 

Research indicates that music can motivate people to move, have a calming effect, change negative thoughts into positive and remind one of happy times. Whenever I go to a retirement home when there is entertainment present, there are always people singing along and listening intently. Some even get up and dance. Watching the crowd one can see how uplifting it is for those present. There is even research on a certain piece of classical music played for children with epilepsy. It appears that there is something about this one piece of Mozart music that calms the brain and helps these kids. 

So, if you have an elderly loved one with or without dementia, do try finding music that they enjoy and play it for them. If they played an instrument in the past and you can access one easily, perhaps suggest they start playing again. If you have loved ones in a nursing or retirement home or know any that visit seniors centres and you don't think they have musical programming for them, speak to administration about incorporating it. And for the rest of you, keep listening to music - it is truly 'food for the soul'..........

Monday, 9 January 2017

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year to all our followers! I hope you had a warm and joyful holiday season.

Each new year brings with it another edition of our Ontario-wide  "Comprehensive Guide to Retirement Living" and this year is no different. Our new 20th edition, is hot off the presses and in the process of being distributed across the province. I am always excited to see our new edition, despite the many months I spend intimately involved in the process of bringing it to fruition. Each new book is indeed, new, updated and different to the ones before it.

We are very pleased with the way our Ontario book turned out this year and thank our many homes and resources who chose to participate in our 2017 Guide. Every year we do our best to add new information and reconfigure things slightly based on the feedback we have received throughout the year. We do hope that those of you who see this year's book will be happy with our changes and please do send us a note letting us know what you think of it when you have a chance. I'd also like to thank the many people on our team who work to keep our website, social media streams and publication current - NTech, In View Marketing and BTT Communications.

Not big on resolutions which seem meant to be broken, no matter how well meaning, we prefer to make a continued commitment to our users and the homes and resources throughout Canada who choose to be part of our database. We will continue to do our best to provide comprehensive unbiased information to seniors, their families and professionals about retirement housing and resources through our website, publication and many social media platforms we now employ.

There are new things on the horizon in 2017 for Senioropolis so do follow us through Twitter, Facebook or Google + to stay updated on our happenings!

Friday, 2 December 2016

Holiday Stresses

As we enter December and holiday season, I hear often about the stress this time of year brings for people. Whether it is related to money, too many commitments, expectations of yourself or others, family or other issues, there is often something that makes this time of year a difficult one for many.

While everyone's situation is different, for those of you who are struggling with how you will cope over the next month, I would like to offer some general thoughts on making your holiday season less stressful:

* Be realistic about what you are able to do
* Limit the expectations you have of others
* Plan ahead as much as possible so you can pace yourself and allow some down time
* If money is an issue, make a budget and stick to it; online shopping may make this a bit easier for some (and may reduce your shopping-related stress)
* Focus on what is important to you and keep that in your thoughts - for most it is simply being with people you care about and making special memories
* Accept the things you cannot change especially in others
* Avoid topics that can cause you to get upset and be aware of them before going into a group situation
* It's okay to say 'no' if you cannot do something
* If the holidays bring up unhappy memories, try to make new positive ones - do something for yourself or change your environment - try to create new traditions
* If you don't have family or friends to celebrate with, consider volunteering your time with others who are less fortunate; alternately, you may want to visit residents in a seniors home
* Try not to self-medicate with alcohol or drugs
* Take care of yourself - eat properly, get sleep, exercise and make time to relax. If you are not feeling well, seek medical attention

If there is a senior in your life, try to include them in celebrations as much as possible. For many who have experienced loss, this time of year may be very difficult for them. As well, they may have physical limitations and mobility issues that add to their own stress. Recognize any issues they may have, be it physical or emotional, and do what you can to make this season easier for them as well. Sometimes helping others, may put your own concerns in perspective and change how you view them.

With each passing year, I recognize how finite time is. Whatever your situation is try to keep things in perspective. Be it one meal, one day or one week, your stress will be time limited and before long this holiday will simply turn into a distant memory.

I wish you all a lovely and warm holiday season!


Wednesday, 16 November 2016

Innovation and Housing Options

An article on CBC news caught my eye the other day. A "young" senior couple have come up with a cohousing model for their retirement. Recognizing that while they are healthy now, things may change down the road, and aware of the existing options for seniors which they are not keen on, they have come up with their own model community to support them in their later years.
They want to buy a large house that can be divided into several apartments which will have shared space and private units. And, to ensure that everyone gets along, they are meeting and interviewing others who are interested in the idea. The plan is to get to know each other over time so they can be certain that the group will function well together.
While senior cohousing exists and is a relatively new concept in Canada, it is not available in many provinces. These innovative seniors have taken it a step further by wanting to create their own retirement living arrangements without the involvement of a third party which tends to be how most cohousing models are established. The article points to something that is a new idea for most, however in Scandinavian countries it is very well known and far more common a concept.
The phrase "necessity is the mother of invention" very much applies to this situation and I venture to guess that in the coming years, we will see more and more innovation in models for senior care and housing as people start to 'think outside the box' and plan for a retirement that will work for them both financially and socially.
Right now options for seniors who need care and need to relocate are limited to primarily retirement home and long-term care but there are those who may want or need something different to the typical. While there are several alternatives like condos for seniors, life lease structures and even some senior cooperatives, there is the scope for other models that will meet the changing needs of seniors and the approaching "silver tsunami". The people involved in this personal project are being proactive and clearly thinking ahead and it is people like them that will move us toward greater options for senior care in the future.