Friday, 16 January 2015


A friend of mine recently sent me an interesting email about female friendships and reading it reaffirmed what I have always know but often wondered if others thought the same. I knew my friend wasn't the author so I took to the internet to try to find out where it came from. I found several instances of the identical content in electronic copies of bulletins and newsletters but since some gave no credit to the person who started it all, and others that did give credit all had different names, I decided that it was safest to quote it from one of the sources directly ........ I can reword it but frankly, I don't see the point - it doesn't need fixing and I don't want to lose the value of what is in the original.
So here it is.

Would love to hear from our readers - do you agree or not?

They Teach It at Stanford, by Sharon Rose
from the March 2011 newsletter of The Business & Professional Women of Nevada County
In an evening class at Stanford, the last lecture was on the mind-body connection – the relationship between stress and disease. The speaker (head of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best  things that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman whereas for a woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends. At first everyone laughed, but he was serious.
Women connect with each other differently and provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences. Physically this quality “girlfriend time” helps us to create more serotonin – a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well-being.  Women share feelings whereas men often form relationships around activities. They rarely sit down with a buddy and talk about how they feel about certain things or how their personal lives are going. Jobs? Yes. Sports? Yes.  Cars? Yes. Fishing, hunting, golf? Yes. But their feelings?  Rarely. 
Women do it all of the time. We share from our souls with our sisters/mothers, and evidently that is very good for our health.  He said that spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym.
There’s a tendency to think that when we are “exercising” we are doing  something good for our bodies, but when we are hanging out with friends,  we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged – not  true. In fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking! So every time you hang out to schmooze with a gal pal, just pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing something good for your health! We are indeed very, very lucky.  Sooooo. let’s toast to our friendship with our girlfriends. Evidently it’s very good for our health.


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