So, when is it the right time to start talking and start looking?
After years of experience and listening to hundreds of stories I think that, as uncomfortable as it may be at first, it is never too early to talk about what a loved one wants in terms of care and decision making if/when they become unable to remain independent. Much anxiety around relocation stems from pre- conceived notions of what a care setting is like. Visiting a few retirement homes and speaking to residents and staff often serves to shatter negative perceptions and gives 'food for thought' for the senior and their family. While completely well and independent seniors might be opposed to this, once there are health &/or cognitive issues and some form of care is required, the need to start looking at and discussing options becomes critical. Watching someone you care about live at risk is more difficult than taking the time to address concerns and problem solve. If this is a situation you are in, do take the time to research options - before time and circumstance takes you in a less desirable direction.