How do you sort through what can be a lifetime of possessions? I was speaking to a group of seniors recently and this topic came up. One lady in the group said she has been 'downsizing' for years and when it gets to the point that she is ready to move, it won't be difficult because the hard work is done. She said she doesn't get attached to 'things' so her policy is to get rid of everything she doesn't use. Another woman in the group talked about how she had a plan over the next few months to go through her home and get rid of what she could. While she is not moving in the immediate future, she is aware that the time will come soon enough and when it does, it will be easier to move if she has less to sort through. Yet another woman in the group talked about her memories being tied to the things she owned and how difficult a task it will be to pare down what she has when she decides to downsize to a smaller home.
This conversation got me thinking about the whole topic of downsizing and sorting possessions. For those who decide to downsize to a smaller home and have the luxury of time to do it, the tasks involved may not be too overwhelming. However, for those who for physical or medical reasons need to relocate to a retirement or long-term care setting in a short time frame, this issue can be far more difficult and emotionally draining for the person and their family. There are many who have lived in their homes for a lifetime and everything in it is tied to memories of that life. And there is a fear that the memories will disappear with the items. The goal for all involved is to separate the memories from the possessions. So how do you do this and rid yourself of things you don't need or can't take with you?
This is a topic I can write an article several pages long on but, in a nutshell, I think you need to start with the easy things first. Start with the big stuff that you can't take with you - extra furniture, household items, kitchenware etc. You would first need to know what you have room for so it's best if you find a place first and know your space limitations. Of the 'easy' (no attachment items), decide if you want to give them away, sell them or throw them out. If you want to give something to a relative, ask them honestly if they want it - if they don't and it is in good condition, consider selling it along with other items in a garage sale, or an online or print ad. Alternately, There are many agencies that would gladly accept donations of gently used items for those less fortunate. For items that hold special meaning, offer it to family members so you can 'visit' your favourites whenever you want. Share the story behind it with them and take photos that you can keep in an album to take with you. If no one wants items that you think are of value, you can try to sell them through auction houses, estate sales or again, on through an online source.
Lastly, no one should have to do this alone. If you don't have family or friends willing to help, there are many professional downsizers and senior move managers willing and able to assist with this process.